I've got dinner in the oven, and since I'm waiting for Mr. P to return from being a great father to my step-daughter, C—, I thought I'd write a list of things a wife can/should expect from a husband.
Equality - Paternalism from a husband is old news. These days a man wielding power over his wife chalks up to patriarchal schematics that closely resemble misogyny. Expecting equal control or freedom of finances, household maintenance, personal interests/development, shared interests, parenting, sexuality, respect of differing opinions, education, work, conversations, etc., is how a partnership best rolls. A partnership is what marriage is. Not a corporation with a CEO and a Vice President. Also, this is NOT feminism. It's just fair. (Although, that's what fourth-wave/post-feminism basically engenders, regardless of your sex.)
Patience and kindness - Yeah. Because Jesus really was into these things, even if he did cleanse the temple in Jerusalem and call out the Pharisees for self-righteousness.
Friendship - If we marry only to be components in a Barbie/Ken facade, that's how rich your marriage will be.
Time - More than the ten minutes it takes to fall asleep at night. Dates that aren't for show. Give your interest.
Affection - She's your wife. If you can't keep your paws off her while you're dating, then "get your fill" on the honeymoon, and want little to nothing from her in the way of touch afterward, I'm not sure you were actually in the wife market. Craigslist can help these people.
Adoration - If she adores you, you damn well better reciprocate. If you don't, you're an asshole.
A listening ear.
110% - And when you think you're giving it and not receiving your share, give a little more. These times happen. Nothing is owed you if you've got anything left to squeeze in effort.
The benefit of the doubt - There are so few people in this world who are truly out to get you. If you think your wife is one of them, get therapy.
Your best effort - She doesn't owe you. You are not a bank. This is not politics. Holding out is only strangling yourself.